If you are the wife or husband of a sex addict, you are likely in pain, betrayed or traumatized. This is a painful and disorienting position to be in. So ask yourself, This is a painful and disorienting position to be in. For the sake of everyone involved, sometimes family members of addicts must confront the addict's behavior. As difficult as it may be to wait when your emotions feel so urgent, the best thing you can do for yourself, for your spouse, and for your relationship is give yourself a little time before you confront your partner with what you suspect. Or perhaps, you're dating a sex addict. First things first: sex addiction isn’t just about loving sex. The main symptoms of sex addiction include being unable to control sexual decision-making, failed attempts at stopping unwanted sexual behavior, and a pattern of negative consequences resulting from one's sex life, from anxiety to depression.